How to Help Your Kids Deal With Moving | Matt’s Moving LLC
No one likes moving. In fact, most people hate it and no matter how hard you try to prepare your children for the move, they don’t understand until it happens. Here are some tips that will help them have an easier time dealing with moving day.
Prepare Your Children
Giving your children a “heads up” when it comes to the move can prove to be incredibly beneficial. Think about it – not only are you completely upending their routines and way of life, but it’s going to open them to whole new experiences. New school, new friends, new environments as a whole – everything. So it’s important to prepare them as much initially so they can learn and grow from the experience.
Involve them in the move, teach them how to pack efficiently and what it means to pack. Have them lift things and pack the moving truck – if you’re not hiring movers, of course. Getting them involved in the tactile aspects of the move will help them become more aware of the process as a whole, and develop some ownership of the moving process.
Similar to what we just mentioned, communication is going to be crucial. You’re going to want to be as transparent and upfront with your children as you can be. Let them know they can ask you questions, voice their anxieties, concerns, or fears, and also feel comfortable asking them questions as well.
Letting them know you’re all on the same “team” – this will be a process and entirely new for everyone, so letting them know you have questions too will help make them more comfortable throughout the entire process.
Develop New Routines
An entirely new home and location can throw off any routine – from consistent to new and everything in between. That’s why it’s important to start thinking of new routines to develop during and after the moving process.
One way to start to get them comfortable with a new routine is to unpack their favorite familiar objects as soon as you can. Whether it’s their bedroom set, toys, books – anything that’s familiar will help jumpstart the idea that everything is going back to normal, just in a new place.
Young children thrive on routine, so it’s important to put their needs and wants first so as to not completely throw them off. The sooner you develop and stick to these new routines, the sooner they’ll begin to pay off for both your children and you.
New Friends are Important, So Are Old
No one wants to leave close friends behind, no matter how old you are. This aspect of moving can be harder for older children, specifically teenages and those who’ve developed a strong social network where they’ve grown up. A new school is hard enough, but breaking into already made friend groups at the school is an entirely different mental task.
To help with this, encourage extracurricular activities in an effort to break down any social walls that might already be up within the new school. At the same time, encourage your older children to keep the bonds they’ve made in the past. Visiting old friends, phone conversations, whatever it is – the old bonds will also help create new friendships in the new community.
Work with Teachers
Teachers are fully aware of how hard a move can be, but also how hard it can be on a student – regardless of age. That’s why it’s important to communicate with faculty and teachers as much as you feel comfortable. Sure, older children might not want their parents in close contact with their teachers, but ultimately it’s for their own good.
Creating these relationships with teachers and faculty will help the student feel less alone, you’ll be more tuned into the community as a whole, and it will help everyone involved in the long run. Sure, it’s another thing to think about and manage during an already stressful situation, but the benefits far outweigh the mental cost.